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It's sometimes easy for your husband or man to get caught up with family, work, church, responsibilities, etc. It's important every now and then to empower him to be the man you knew when you married him.
It's easy for a man to become "de-manitized" by dealing with crying wives, coming home to pink and princesses, or weekends at dance recitals and Target, instead of doing whatever "real men" are supposed to do. The following are a few ways to help empower your man and still let him feel like he is "da man."
I get pedicures and waxing a few times a year, a straight razor shave is his man-spa time.
This is true. Dean found a good deal on a couple of slim fitting modern suits a few months ago. He raved about them and how glad he was that he bought them. And I could tell when he was wearing it, he felt more confident. And he looked gooood.
When I have done this, its was really good. Its good for him to miss us, you know? I feel like he comes back recommitted to me, and our little family, and is happy to start the grind again.
Get him some nice cologne: This goes along with the nice suit, but if your man is still wearing Curve or Acqua di Gio, its definitely time for an update. Your man is unique and his style and scent should match that uniqueness. Obviously smelling bad is socially unacceptable, but smelling like everyone else can be just as bad. Splurge for Christmas, Father's Day or birthday for a nice scent that can set your man apart from the rest.
Dean's fave: D&G the One, Yves Saint Laurent, Vince Camuto.
Go all out to support his team: I am a huge college football fan (WPS), but I don't get to enjoy it like I used to, when I was single without a family. Most men like at least one major sport, and it's important to let your man feel like you support him. Give him one day a year where he can act like a crazy, tailgating, yell at the tv, jump off the couch if his team wins, or sit on the couch and sulk if they lose, fan. Let the boys come over, make some appetizers, fire up the bbq grill, let him dress in all his teams gear, pretend that you love it, and let him have his fan-day.
When I have done this in the past, complete with logo gear on me and the kids, I can tell it is appreciated. As in a solo trip to Target in return. Score!!
My competitiveness is about as far from sports-related as possible, so this isn't my thing. But I am proud of him when he finishes a race. The girls and I like to cheer for him at the finish line. And I can tell it really does something for him mentally/emotionally as well.
What helps empower your man?
PS If you want to read more marriage tips, you should check out my post about surviving the 7 year itch.