October 30, 2013

You are a good mom

I read this post today, and it has really stuck with me.

It made me think about how embarrassed I was when I picked up my toddler from nursery and found out that she had hit two other kids.

It made me think about how upset I was at the lady at Target who made a snarky comment about my wiggly toddler.

It made me think about how worried I am about protecting my new little kindergartner from the ugly pain in the world.

I think so deeply about parenting. How to improve, what I can do differently, how I can tweak their behavior, and how shape their little spirits. I worry all the time that I'm not doing enough, that I'm not good enough. I know I can do better.

The responsibility of being a mother is heavy.

Sometimes I just need someone to remind me, "Its ok. They're ok. Everything is going to be ok. You are a good mom."

It made me think about my friends who are surviving on little sleep, or solo parenting for long stretches, or dealing with kids with behavioral or health concerns.

I want to tell them all that its going to be ok, you are a good mom. I see that you're trying your best. I understand your sincere desire to raise good little kids. I know that you are struggling, but that you will survive. Your children know how much you love them. You are doing a good job.

Being a mom is hard. SO HARD. Let's all make an extra effort to remind each other that "You are a good mom."


  1. This is all good, Kylie and... you really are a very good mom. I love you!

  2. Thank you so much for this. Sometimes I wonder. I have 4 amazing kids but i dont have custody of them. They live with dad and stepmom. Living in a state where custody is almost always given to mom, people are speechless when I tell them that. They don't understand how i could let that happen. But right now I'm doing what's best for them.

    1. What defines a "good mom" is different in every situation. It sounds like you are a wonderful mother who unselfishly wants the best for her kids, regardless of what others think. What lucky kids you have! Thanks for sharing :)

  3. I love this Kylie!! It is a wonderful reminder to us moms who try our hardest and still feel like we are coming in short!! I love reading your posts, you cover such a wide range of topics, but you keep it REAL!!! You are a great MOM and an amazing FRIEND!!

    1. Oh Brenda, I learn so much from you! You are such a good mom, especially to your teens. My teenagers will thank you for teaching me all your ways! ;) Thanks for always being so nice and supportive.