September 13, 2013

how to fix your child's attitude

I didn't really give much thought to my parenting philosophy until my oldest daughter was about 3.  She was stubborn, and hated to be "controlled" which just made me want to try even harder to control her.  It was power struggle city. Over ev.ry.thing. Getting her in the carseat, diaper changes, getting dressed, not acting like a lunatic at the store. It was non-stop. Which is one of the reasons it took forever for her to be potty trained. Try as you might, you cannot force a child to pee. And when you're at that "butting heads" point, everything is a fight. Your child is trying to win. You're trying to show him who's boss. No one wins. And its miserable for everyone.

After finding Dr Laura Markham, my world changed. I read this post, and about 100 others. I had a new plan. (I love plans.) We were going to be on the same team. No more Mom vs Child. It would be Mom & Child working together to have a happy home. It took some serious patience. I mean SERIOUS PATIENCE. And empathy. Ohhhh the empathy! But it worked. After awhile, I was more patient, and she was more calm. I was happier. She was happier. We were working together.


Since then, our relationship has naturally ebbed and flowed. Sometimes she is charming and sweet, and other times she is irritating and dramatic.

And guess what I learned (this will blow your mind):

She was irritating, because I was irritated with her.

Do you see what I'm saying? My attitude about her determined her behavior. By changing my attitude towards her, her attitude towards me changed as well. It works both ways. The more loving I am toward her, the more loving she is toward me. The more bossy I get, the more difficult she gets.

As parents, when we're in that "funk" with our kids, when they're not listening, disobedient, acting out, we want to DEMAND that they change their behavior. But they're still little, and its expecting A LOT to ask them to change first, so that you will like them better.

You've got to like them better first, and then they will change.

Let that sink in...

When I get to that point when I realize that my kids are irritating me, and I know I need to flip things around, there are a handful of things that I've learned really help me soften my heart toward them.



Write a list of 3 things you like about your child.
Don't just think them, write them down. And do it daily, or twice a day. As much as it takes to help you focus on their good qualities again.

Cut back on how busy you are.
I've realized that when I'm stressed, it affects the whole family. My kids feel particularly annoying when I'm trying to get a project finished. I love that quote from Thomas S Monson, "Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved." Your kids are more important that whatever you're doing. So close the computer, put down the project, turn off your phone, take off your running shoes, put down the laundry. Leave it for another day.

Have quiet snuggle time.
Sometimes the last thing I want is someone hanging on me, especially if I'm irritated with them. But if I can take a deep breath and realize just how much my child wants me to love on her, it helps me want to be affectionate. If they're young enough, hold them on your lap. Rock them. Play with their hair. Sing to them. Read to them. Take a deep breath and really be "in the moment."

Do something fun together.
This one has an almost immediate effect on kids. Take them somewhere special. The park, the zoo, an ice cream shop, the pool, a train ride, go on an adventure. Adventures promote bonding. Put on your happy face and let yourself enjoy it.

Let your problem child be king/queen for a day.
My friend Jennie is a fantastic mother. The last week before school started, each day, she let one of her children be "king/queen for a day" complete with a handmade crown. The child got to choose the day's activities and meals. One picked a museum and 3D movie, another chose apple picking and a petting zoo. I can only imagine the happiness and love that her children felt while falling asleep after their big day of being King.

Look back at pictures from when they were younger.
I try to do this one often, usually at night after the kids are asleep. It does wonders to soften my heart, and realize just how quickly time is passing. I especially like to look at pictures from when they were newborns and reflect on their special births. Most of the pictures we have are smiling faces and happy memories. Things that make me smile and remember just how much I love them.

Observe your child doing something he/she is good at.
I was recently in a funk with my oldest daughter. I was kinda stressed, summer was winding down and we were bored. I hadn't really realized it, or decided to do anything about it, until I took her to her first ballet class. I stayed to watch her and was almost overwhelmed with pride as I watched her lean little pink body stretch and glide around the studio. She would occasionally give me a little wave, loving the huge smile on my face. I felt my attitude toward her change, and the next few days continued to improve.

When you talk to them, look deep in their eyes and mentally say "I love you."
This one might sound weird, but I had a roommate in college that swore that when she was talking to a boy, if she mentally said "ask me out" while she was talking to them, that they almost always did ask her out on a date. She was a cute girl, so that helped. But I know that there is truth to it. She now uses that technique with each of her 6 kids, mentally saying "I love you" while she is listening to them talk to her. Mentally saying it softens your features and adds an intensity that your child really can feel. There have been times that I've done it, and my girls will pipe up out of the blue, "Mom, I just love you!" or give me a hug. All without me saying a word. We (hopefully) tell our children "I love you" verbally throughout the day. But do they really FEEL it?

Verbally commit to your child to be happier.
I'm sure your child realizes that you're frustrated with them. Sit down with them at a quiet moment (like when you're tucking them into bed), and tell them you're sorry that you've been grumpy and that you're trying to do better. Ask them if they want you to be a happy mom. Ask them if they want to be happy too. And make a promise to each other to try harder to be more patient and nice to each other.

I hope those give you some ideas to try. One last thing that helps me feel motivated to do better as a mother, is to ask myself:

"If someone asked my kids right now, if their mom is a happy mom or a grumpy mom, what would they say?" 

and

"When my children look back at their childhood, what will they remember?"



Liked this post? Check out a few of my other parenting posts:
Keeping toddlers busy (without destroying your house)
Potty training: get it done quicker with less messes
How to encourage kids to eat
How to help babies sleep


89 comments:

  1. Fabulous post. This has so many great ideas this momma needed to hear!

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    1. well written. and also very true thank you for this amazing write.

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  2. Thanks so much for this! Our baby is still small so we don't have to worry quite yet but I will pin this because we will most likely need it later! Have a good one!

    Britney @ The Princess & Her Cowboys

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    1. Thanks Britney! I'm sure you guys will do a fantastic job with your littles. :)

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  3. This is brilliant information and I needed it today.

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    1. Thanks Nat, I'll be honest, I'm glad its written out so that I can refer to it the next time we're in a funk. :)

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  4. Love this post needed this today thank you

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    1. You're welcome Emily, thanks for your comment! <3

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  5. I always look back at pictures, it does help to live in the moment more...and enjoy these little ones.

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  6. I really needed this. Thank you for posting it. I will take what you said to heart. :)

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  7. A really, really great article, Kylie. Oh, the ups and downs of parenting... sigh. You got it right on every count. Excellent!

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  8. Kids are sponges and they absorb everything, including our moods, behaviors and attitudes, and model them back to us . Great post on how to get us parents to snap out of it, sometimes we need it!

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  9. I really needed these tips. My son is really struggling in school, primarily because of his ADD, and he can sense our frustration and anxiety regarding his behavior, and returns it in kind. I've got to turn it around. Being a parent is tough but so, so, so important; we have been entrusted with these amazing souls and the responsibility to help them be their best selves and see themselves as the amazing little people that they are!

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  10. I so needed this right now. I have 4, and I literally hated being their mom this weekend. I really don't like feeling that way, and I feel so powerless. This post had some really great pointers. It sounds hard, but I can do it!

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  11. Saw this on Pinterest and love it. I really like the part about looking them in the eye. I've found that so often I go through my day without hardly ever "looking" at my children. I focus on what I'm doing, and although I'm aware of the kids coming and going, I hardly take time to actually look at them... see what they're doing, how they're doing, etc. But when I stop and look them in the eyes, suddenly I'm drawn into their world and I feel so much more of that love I know is in there. The other ideas are awesome too. Stress is definitely a trigger for me too. Thanks for sharing this!!

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  12. I love this post! Thanks for writing it! I have been 'head to head' with my 8 year old and I am exhausted! (Also could be the fact that five out of six kids are all sick) Thanks for the pointers!

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  13. Very timely post for me! Thank you so much for sharing, and I am definitely going to try some of these ideas with my son. I feel we were reaching critical last week. We are really in need of an attitude adjustment on both ends.

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  14. I guess I'm an old fogey. In my day we called that 'spoiling.' Also it was deemed permissiveness.

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    1. Bud, there's definitely a fine line between enabling undesired behaviors and knowing what battles to fight. I did not interpret the post as "give in to your child's every whim", rather, I see it as a reminder that the attitude in which we perceive our children is largely what we will get back from them.

      I always tell my students that if they decide the class is boring and pointless, then that is the experience they will have. The opposite is also true. And it certainly applies to rearing children...and marriages!

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  15. This post is sooo timely for me- way too much to do, school is underway, my tween is pushing boundaries and being rude. Thanks!

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  16. I LOVED reading this, so many good reminders and tips! My second boy is currently pushing all my buttons and I feel so impatient and worn out with him. But after reading this I KNOW he needs to feel more loved by me. Thank you for this, Kaz x

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  18. Holy shmokes. I have three kids and when reading parenting forums, it takes a lot to impress me... and my oh my did you ever. I LOVED it and YES EVERYTHING YOU SAID IS COMPLETELY TRUE! I'm a homeschooling mom. Spending ALL DAY (heck 24/7) with your kids takes a toll on your patience, kindness and forgiveness. This was refreshing to read and you bet your bottom I'm putting this into practice. THANK YOU

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    1. Wow, thank you for the compliment!

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  19. Thanks so much! My oldest sure knows how to push my buttons and I'm always looking for new ways to deal with her. What simple ways. I also love the Monson quote. I may need to print it out as a reminder.

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  20. I especially like the idea of having your eyes say, "I love you" .. It probably works with husbands, too :)

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  21. I love everything about this. My daughter, Ramona, is 3.5 right now and this is exactly what we've been going through for the last few months. My sweet baby and two-year-old was suddenly making me want to pull out my hair not too long after her third birthday. Luckily, potty training happened really early for her (on her own accord!), but sleep is our downfall. Nighttime is the only time I question my parenting, and try to exert far too much control over her. With a background in developmental psychology, I knew that my behavior was adversely affecting hers, I knew something had to change. I read Alfie Kohn's book, Unconditional Parenting, and realized so many of the things you mentioned here. We are still working on it, we are growing through this, but we both know that we are working together on it and have been so much happier! I seriously love hearing that other parents have to realize this too, that I wasn't the only one because it can often feel like that. xo

    amanda

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  22. You know, the more kids I have, the more I love them. Not sure if this is a natural evolution. Maybe its just 'cause my kids are so amazing.
    Thank you for this post. Its really validating for me. I spent the day around women who were talking about how to make their kids conform to their wishes. I'm ready to relax the rule-keeper role myself. I believe in treating kids the way I would like to be treated. This post gives me more ideas how I can put that belief into action and turn things around for my family. God bless. :)

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    1. Thanks for commenting, you are so right! We do need to treat everyone (children included) like we would want to be treated. I honestly believe that that combined with a heavy dose of teaching/guidance, will result in good kids. God bless you as well :)

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  23. I soo needed to read this. Your oldest daughter sounds so much like mine and I could have written the first paragraph. Thank You

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  24. I shared on FB in two different places! Awesome read & reminder!

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    1. Thank you so much! That makes my day :)

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  25. I think you are right on in so many ways . . . when a child is trying a parent and testing them, it takes a lot to pull back and remember that this is the child that many of us prayed for, hoped for, were blessed and honored with! I do that trick of imagining my 9 yr old as she looked as a toddler and it helps me remember she is my child for goodness sake! I immediately shift my attitude and my heart softens and she truly picks up on it. We are no longer butting heads, but she feels my love for her. We begin to work together. I really like how you expressed this, great post and reminder for those tough times.

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    1. I needed to read your comment TODAY, my 5 year old is having a hard time adjusting to school and while I too want to loose it, I can't give into the teacher's wish for punishment... my goodness, he is only 5! and yes, my husband and I were blessed with this little one after 14 years of not being able to have children. Yes, it is an honor to have him in our lives. He changed the whole mood of the home, we can do what new parents do all over again and I can't be more thankful. I will not change my attitude just because the teacher says so, I will love him more and help him grow to overcome his challenges.. Thank you, thank you for sharing your experience.

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  26. Spankings will fix a lot of that.

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    1. Read the article again, you obviously don't understand.

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  27. I loved reading this! I have a 3 year old and most the time I just feel lost!! I discovered this positive parenting website and a power of moms site that have been a tremendous help!! life changing really! you have probably already heard of them but just in case :)

    http://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/
    http://powerofmoms.com/

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    1. Thanks for sharing those links, I hadn't heard of either one! Its so nice to find other people with similar parenting philosophies that can encourage and support you. Take care :)

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  28. Stumbled across this on Pinterest. It has me scratching my head. My daughter is rebellious to the point I want to rip my hair out some days. Gonna pray about this today!

    XO,
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    www.newlymynted.com

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  29. Wow, I seriously needed this. Thank you, just thank you so much!

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  30. I just wanted to say thank you for this post! It is wonderful to read about women who write constructive, positive, loving thoughts on motherhood. I am tired of snarky parenting articles. This was wonderful to read!

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    1. Thank you Kimmie, that means a lot!

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  31. This has been the best Pinterest find. I have read so many blogs and articles on this issue. My oldest (8) is and has been my biggest frustration since she was 3. Her little sister is a breeze (thank goodness). I've known for a while that I was part of the problem, but could not for the life of me figure out what I needed to do to change. You laid it out and I had a light bulb moment, Thank You! I obviously haven't been able to see the results as I've just read this now, but I am confident that this will work. You are a life saver!!!

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    1. Thank you so much Kamee! I'm glad you liked it, and hope it really helps you guys.

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  32. Oh my goodness this post bought tears to my eyes! My little girl turns 5 in about 5 weeks and I am FREAKING OUT - where did my little baby girl go? This post has SAVED MY LIFE I'm printing it out and I'm going to do this because I want these days to be completely memorable for her. Even to this day I still have memories of when I was 5 (not much before that) so I want to create memories that she will remember when she's my age and I want them to be POSITIVE! Thank you Kylie. This is the first post of yours that I've read but I will be back to read more. THANK YOU THANK YOU! XXX

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    1. I'm so glad you liked it! That is just wonderful that you want to make good memories for your daughter. It takes more effort, but I think it will be worth it in the end. I'm glad you found me. :) Thanks for taking the time to comment!

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  33. Hi Kylie! I found your blog on Pinterest when I literally typed into the search bar "being a nice mommy blog." My sweet daughter is almost 3 and my baby boy is 13 months and some days I just feel like I'm not all that nice to be around. I still give plenty of hugs, snuggles,and I love yous but the minute my daughter starts rebelling in some way i lose my patience (it tends to get lost easily...I think it needs a gps!) and I tend to turn into cranky, overreacting mommy! And I don't like it one bit. Thank you for these tips. I bet they will make my babies, and myself, a much happier crew!
    Liz

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    1. I totally know what you mean. Sometimes I worry that I hold my oldest to a higher standard, and forget that she is still little. Being a mom is hard sometimes!

      I hope these tips help, thanks for commenting! :)

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    2. Exactly! I have had to remind my husband and I that she is not even 3 yet, from time to time. She is 2 going on 20 so it's easy to lose sight of that!

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  35. This was such a great post! Thanks so much for sharing with us :)

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    1. I'm so glad you liked it! Thanks for commenting, it makes my day! :)

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  36. Wow! I seriously needed this tonight!!!! I think I will re-read this again in the morning and try all of these out!! I just happen to stumble upon this whole looking at Pinterest. Great, great post!!!!!!!
    Kelley- @mommymadethat

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    1. Thank you so much, I'm glad you found it helpful! Good luck with your kids!! :)

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  37. I wish I'd read this back when I was raising kids... and I wish my mom had read it so many years ago when I was your stubborn and irritating 3 year old daughter.... Every mother and father needs to read this post!!

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    1. Thank you :) I need to read it often! haha

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  38. It's 5am and I've been up since 2:30 with a very stubborn 2yr old, dreading what the coming day will hold for me and my 3 kids. This is exactly what I needed to help me face the day. Thank you!

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    1. Oh hugs to you! I struggle to keep healthy perspective, I find myself coming back to this often to remind me to slow down and give my (crazy) littles some love. I hope things turn around for you. :) Thanks for commenting!

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  39. I'm a Grandma, raising two of my grand kids...a 3 and a half year old boy and a 5 year old girl. I stumbled onto this post, and looking to give it a try. My grand kids were in "the System" before we got them, and therefore have stability and control of their lives issues. We've been butting heads with them, but since reading this blog...I'm going to implement this and see how it goes.

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  40. I think you made awesome decision the moment when you choose this topic of the blog article here. Do you generally make your articles all by yourself or you work with a partner or even a helper?
    home care diary

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  41. This is AWESOME! I have a child that's fairly grumpy on a more regular basis than I would like. And getting myself to turn around when she's grumpy is an extreme challenge I'm facing. I plan to print this out and refer to it often! Thanks so much for reminding us to slow down and appreciate what special children we have despite their (and our) imperfections!

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    1. Its just so much easier to grump right back at them, I totally know! I find myself referring to this often as well. Being a mom is hard! Thanks for commenting, Christi :)

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  42. Thank you so much for writing this. I really needed this.

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  43. Your post is good, but maybe you should consider changing the title. I only clicked the "pin" to see, ‘who the heck would write such a thing.’ The title seems to give a negative feel and, fortunately, did not seem to be the goal of your article. Your article gave nice examples and good solutions to problems, but "How to like your kids again," sounds really bad. I have two little ones and I can't ever imagine not liking them. The title almost gives an 'okay' to not like them. I'm not saying I haven’t had struggles with training them, but I also realize that the way 'moods' happen, is they come down on us and then we pin it on the first person that causes the slightest irritation... and unfortunately many times its the kids (or husband). Just saying, your article seems to be more like, "How to relate to your kids... so you can enjoy each other more."

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    1. The main title and the "how to like your kids more" section also made cock an eyebrow. I guess a lot of parents do have that mentality that a child who misbehaves etc. has to be "fixed" in some way, but I think the author does make the point that it is actually outside factors affecting the child that result in "misbehavior" or "bad" attitudes. So I do agree with that. I guess the liking your child more section is sort of strange to me. My son is one of my, if not most, favorite person in the world. I really don't think it's only because he's an awesome little person (he's four), but I just figured it's a natural thing to not just love your child but completely like him or her. Sometimes when I'm frustrated or upset, with him or something else, it's pretty easy for me to just look at him and say, whoa, wait a sec, this little person is innocent and amazing and taking anything out on him will not resolve any issue. I've even been known to apologize to him. And he has actually learned to do the same- when he's frustrated he's learned to articulate what caused him to feel that way (broken toy for example) and when he yells at me or does something else that isn't considered "good" behavior, he actually apologizes. He'll apologize, give me a kiss, and tells me he loves me. A lot of parents really underestimate that kids follow their lead, not my command but by example. Thank you for explaining to parents how important it is to recognize that often we need to budge rather than trying to mold our children perfectly and immediately. Commanding a child to stop pouting, stop misbegaving, etc. isn't necessarily the best parenting technique. I believe using techniques that come from respect of the child as a person, rather than a lesser-than subordinate, create a happier and more well - adjusted little being.

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  44. Not only is this a great read for the tips, it's an amazing reminder that we all face the same struggles, worries, and emotions and are not alone. My daughter, at ten, lost her father to cancer three months ago. It's a huge loss for both of us and to manage her emotions (which often shows as anger directed at me) and my own. I feel like I just want to get away from her, and feel guilty for getting angry/annoyed/frustrated with her. It's a nice reminder to read your post, as well as all the comments, and realize that being a parent IS hard for everyone-not just me.

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    1. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, Tara. I know how you feel, about wanting to get away from her. I feel that way sometimes too. (And I probably give in to it more than I should! haha) And the guilt just makes it worse! Go easy on yourself (and her), and I'm sure things will get better. I hope you can go do something fun together to jump-start the relationship improvement. Hugs to you!

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  45. Thanks so much for writing this! It was a big encouragement to me. I stumbled across your blog via pinterest the other day and it was one of those days that, as a mom of five, I really needed to hear this! I'm sharing this on my blog. :)
    livinginpuregrace.blogspot.com

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    1. I appreciate your kind words, Rachel, and thank you for sharing the link on your blog! :)

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  46. Kylie, This really hit home. My daughter is just as you described your daughter. Not only can't you make someone pee you can't make someone have fun at Disneyland either. We laugh about our first trip to Disneyland now but it was miserable when she was 4. My daughter is now turning 12 is a few months and I still struggle with her attitude. She is a beautiful young lady and has a heart of gold. I realized years ago that I can't control her. I only can help her to enjoy good choices and life. Some of the things you suggest have worked and some I am excited to try. Thanks for the ideas.

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  47. This made me cry. It was great. I can really relate to this because I have a 5 year old daughter who I butt heads with all the time. It's really exhausting. Thank you so much for writing these great ideas. I really needed this!

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    1. Me too...its so good not only to read this post but to read these comments and know you are not alone... it helped to take away the shame I feel when I think about the looks on their little faces when angry mummy has just done a fly bye on her broomstick!

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  48. I would add, pray for a change of heart. It worked for me.

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  49. AnonymousMay 28, 2014

    4 Facts You MUST Understand if you are Ever Going to Effectively Deal with the Terrible Twos or Children Behavior Problems


    1. Behavior is driven by Emotion,
    NOT Logic. This is fundamental to everything, including understanding toddler behavior. Behavior, for any person of any age, is determined by their emotional state. People ACT from their emotions, and they later JUSTIFY their actions with logic. But small kids don’t have the ability to use logic, so they act purely from emotion. Keep this in mind when dealing with behavior in toddlers.


    2. We tend to overuse the word “No” when we talk to our kids.
    This causes problems with toddler behavior. You remember the story of the boy who cried wolf, right? The little shepherd boy was bored while watching the sheep so he decided to cry wolf and make the villagers come running. Before long, they stopped responding to his false cries. When a parent cries “No” at every little thing, kids stop listening. The parent’s cries fade into the background. Behavior problems in children can stem from this caveat. I’ll teach you multiple ways to get what you want without screaming “NO” at your child – and it simply works better!


    3. If you want to have any chance at all of influencing your toddler’s behavior, you MUST have rapport first.
    Rapport simply means having an emotional connection to another person. I’ll show you how you can learn LOTS of ways to create this crucial emotional bridge before you deal with children behavior problems.

    4. Language is a powerful tool and there are a bunch of tactics you need to learn to create the outcomes you want. Here’s a specific tip: Use positive language instead of negative language.

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  50. Thank you so much for this! I just started following you. I have two girls, and we seem to butt heads all the time. Not to mention, I have them all summer, every summer, since I'm a "stay-at-home" mom. You have such wonderful ideas, and such a positive perspective on things. The very last two question in this really hit home... I cannot tell you how much truth there is to that, and that not only do my actions affect their future, but affect them day to day. I feel so inspired! Thank you!

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  51. This is just what I needed. It was like you were talking about my daughter and me. It comforts me to know that I am not the only mother out there dealing with these issues. It gives me hope that I can make the same changes you did to have a better relationship with my daughter. Thank you for sharing :-)

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  52. Wow! If someone were to ask your child if you're a happy mom or a grumpy mom, what would your child say? That hit me hard! Thank you!!!!! I needed to read this!!!!

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  53. I loved the post and I indeed also realized that childeren are reacting on your behavior.
    'If you change they change'.

    Sometimes though I think it is unfair, that the woman and especially the mothers are taught to always be flexible. We always have to that a deep breath and do the things we actually where not feeling and not willing to do. We somehow always have to force ourselves into actions we dont want. And YES of course especially this makes us so Special and Great. And true exactly this make us Grow so much psychologically. But it also make that we sometimes forget ourselves!!!

    But OK on the other hand though, seeing the love you get back for it from you kids, make you realize although, it is 'hard working' .. is worth to be a woman and a MUM! ;-)

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  56. I have been married for 7 months, i was 5 months pregnant, i love my husband so much, but he treated me so badly we fought because i have found numerous other emails, and texts on his phone from other women, i became so tired of of his womanizing behavior, worrying all the time, and i was always scared when i am not with him . one night he came back drunk, he also came with the another lady, when i i tried to confront him, he immediately started hitting me and he pushed me out the house and ask me to leave, i was lost and confused, i was stranded that i have to find a help from anywhere then i came across a spell caster Manifest Spell who had saved many marriage so as i emailed Dr. Manifest and he told me what is needed and after 3 days, he restored my marriages, i and my husband came back together as a married couple again, i am so so so so happy, my marriage was saved by manifestspellcast@yahoo.com

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  59. I never believed in spell casting, but After 6 years of dating, I still imagine how Dr Aza brought my ex lover back to me in just 24 hour. No one could have ever made me believe that there is a real spell caster that really work. am sandra by name,I want to quickly tell the world that there is a real on line spell caster that is powerful and genuine, His name is Dr Aza, He helped me recently to reunite my relationship when my ex lover who left me, When i contacted Dr Aza he cast a love spell for me and my ex lover who said he doesn't have anything to do with me again, he called me and started begging me. he is back now with so much love and caring. today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the powers of bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my lover,and the most surprise,is that our love is very strong,every day is happiness and joy. and there is nothing like been with the man you love.i am so happy my love is back to me with the help of Dr.Aza if you have similar problem i will advice you to contact him ,he is there to help you and put a smile on your face. his email: azaspellcaster@gmail.com or you can whats App his line:+2348107155060

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